My Post "AFRAID FOR HER"
from last Thursday goes into the
situation with my next younger sister.
If you or someone you love are dealing with abuse situations, I pray that you will seek the help you need to get out of that situation. You deserve better!! And YES!! I said someONE... men are also susceptible to abuse but report it even LESS due to embarassment. NO ONE deserves to be abused. PERIOD! Exclamation MARK to infinity and BEYOND!!!!!!!!
Domestic abuse falls into a common pattern, or cycle of violence:
- Abuse – Your abusive partner lashes out with aggressive, belittling, or violent behavior. The abuse is a power play designed to show you "who is boss."
- Guilt – After abusing you, your partner feels guilt, but not over what he's done. He’s more worried about the possibility of being caught and facing consequences for his abusive behavior.
- Excuses – Your abuser rationalizes what he or she has done. The person may come up with a string of excuses or blame you for theabusive behavior—anything to avoid taking responsibility.
- "Normal" behavior — The abuser does everything he can to regain control and keep the victim in the relationship. He may act as if nothing has happened, or he may turn on the charm. This peaceful honeymoon phase may give the victim hope that the abuser has really changed this time.
- Fantasy and planning – Your abuser begins to fantasize about abusing you again. He spends a lot of time thinking about what you’ve done wrong and how he'll make you pay. Then he makes a plan for turning the fantasy of abuse into reality.
- Set-up – Your abuser sets you up and puts his plan in motion, creating a situation where he can justify abusing you.
Your abuser’s apologies and loving gestures in between the episodes of abuse can make it difficult to leave. He may make you believe that you are the only person who can help him, that things will be different this time, and that he truly loves you. However, the dangers of staying are very real.
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ABUSE is NOT OK!
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You DON'T have to live this way!
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Resources for help,
HOTLINE: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) OR 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
UK Hotline: 0808 2000 247
CANADA: Hotline: 1-800-363-9010 and Canada Abuse Directory
NATIONAL TEEN DATING ABUSE HOTLINE: 1-866-331-9474
National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4A-CHILD
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
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