". . . our stories are what make the difference, and if we can tell them honestly we can hope to help each other. In the end, we have nothing to offer each other but our stories." ~ Emma Lou Thayne

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

I've Come Undone: Need YOU to Review and I have 1 for YOU

She's Come Undone by Wally Lamb
I read this the first time when I lived in California. For the record, I did NOT read this because it was on the O List... I had no clue. I think I actually read it BEFORE it was on that list. I do read from recommendations from friends sometimes; but this one I just happened upon at the public library. 

I suppose some individuals in some of my circles may find this book SHOCKING! Well, let me be honest with you, my life story is pretty SHOCKING. Maybe not in it's current state, thank HEAVENS... But if my life story were made into a movie, it would be rated R, for sure. My children would NOT be privy to it. No doubt of it! At any rate, I liked the book, probably because there were places in it that I could relate with the emotions of the main character in the book. And it was REAL! Sometimes the old cliche stories and endings become a bit *YAWN*... Yeah... THAT!
I would NOT recommend this book to 
youth of any age. 

*I feel the need to add an addendum here...
This is NOT a book you will: 
  • EVER find in any type of Christian bookstore.
  • have a happy-go-lucky attitude towards

This IS a book
  • that shows a young woman that lives through many trials and bad decision in life
  • that shows a victim of circumstances, resulting in an immoral lifestyle in search of finding happiness through fantasies, trial, and much error
  • of abuse and mental illness
  • in the end finds some peace and ways to cope and move on in spite of that horrific past

I think in my mind, I relate with some of the things put upon her, but not necessarily the choices she made as a result. I do have a sister that made/makes MANY choices in the wrong direction due to a low self esteem because of things that were put upon her in her youth... and adulthood... and I DO have HOPE that there will come a day that she will realize that she CAN choose a better future in spite of her past... (That is if her current choice doesn't KILL her before that happens...) Mental illness does not always choose the wisest/logical path. Reality can be skewed, dwelt upon and exaggerated.  In that frame of mind, it IS VERY REAL. (Understanding that I can sometimes view things to an extreme, it helps me pull things back together after realizing I'm unreasonable going off the deep end... Having a kind and understandable husband helps me in that realization where he tries to HELP me back to reality rather than through judgment... which invariable WOULD just send me into a tailspin in the wrong direction.)

I also see it as a way for people to see that we can't understand all that a person has been through in life and that if we understood their whole story, we don't know how it affects the choices they make now. Everyone is in a different place in their journey. I think that only by displaying love and compassion will it help someone want to make better choices. They have to FEEL that they are worthy of a better life. If they feel judged and criticized in every direction they turn, that will not happen. It's about a journey... a difficult one... and an emotional roller-coaster as you can't help but think "WHAT ELSE?" 

If you can endure the cold, hard realities of her life and thought process through it, you will hopefully find a little more compassion for others that don't necessarily view the world the same as you.

This song describes the way I'm feeling lately.
That's what made me think of the book.
Yes!! I jump all over the place sometimes.  ;p
I will go into the silly details tomorrow.
I'm asking a favor of my readers... 
Please watch this 5 min clip and is quite comical.

This is a student film directed by Benjamin Sandberg (my son) for his Film Production I class at the University of Utah. This is the version he submitted for a grade but is not the final cut. He will post his final cut in the near future. This film is about a date gone horribly wrong when a jealous GPS system, with a mind of its own, decides it doesn't like Carl's new girlfriend. In this project he was not allowed to use any sync sound from the camera, so all sound was done in post production including dialogue. Please enjoy, share and leave him feedback. It would be greatly appreciated!
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Pamela said...

I think I'd like to get my hands on a copy of this book! So glad I stopped by from Yaya's. Can't wait to get to know you better. I've been suffering Postpartum Depression of for almost 2 years now and yeah, it sucks.

Rose said...

Hi I'm a new follower via the blog hop. I would love for you to follow me at Tips for Saving


Thanks and KIT!

Texas Type A Mom said...

Hi there! I'm following you from Follow Me Back Tuesday! I'd love a follow back!


Cheeseboy said...

This book sounds like one my wife would really like. I'll let her know.

Lisa said...

Okay, I HATED the book. Actually threw it out. Sorry, darlin' Holly. I felt like the girl had absolutely no moral compass, or even a passing commentary on what she was experiencing. I felt like every character was dark and ugly, too. I read it several years ago, and still recall very disturbing portions of the book. But that's me. :) Feel free to feel otherwise. :)

BUT, I loved your sons video. Fun and well done and Ash would be sad he wasn't a part of it. :)

Heavensent1 said...

Never heard of the book! Not sure if its my genre but if I had it in my hands I would have to at least attempt reading it!

GFC following from Follow Me Back Tuesday - *heavensent1* ifn you have a moment, please stop by my place and have a look around - Mad Moose Mama - http://www.madmoosemama.blogspot.com Have a groovy day...peaces...xoxo

Brenda said...

I'm the guest host, following you back.

Karen Peterson said...

I've had that book on my shelf for several years, waiting to be read. I keep going back and forth on it, but I think I'll give it a try.

I saw your son's video yesterday on Facebook. It's cute! And now I understand why there's so little dialog!

Leanna Kelly-ann said...

Beautiful site you have here Holly. I'm your newest follower hopping on over from divine

Hope you can follow back if you fancy my site.

Have a good week!

Karen said...

Really enjoy your blog and LOVE that you have a pic. of the Temple in your sidebar (too neat!)

Found you through Follow Me Back Tuesday-- hoping you stop by and follow me back!

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